You tried everything, and none of it worked. Some couples opt for adoption, but for others, it’s just not enough. There’s a lot more to finding a surrogate mother than pilfering through Craig’s List ads. If you can’t do something yourself, you want someone who is going to do it as well as or at least the same way you would. Finding a surrogate is detailed search for someone who is going to give you the most precious gift of your life.
Prepare for Controversy
Some argue that the practice is nothing more than baby selling, while others feel that a couple should have access to any methods necessary to produce offspring. Regardless of the controversy, the reality is that surrogacy is here to stay. For many couples struggling with infertility or sterility, it may be the only solution that can help them to conceive. Before you begin your search, find a way to be comfortable with what you are doing, and learn to let rude remarks slide off your shoulders.
Historical Surrogacy
There are a number of ways a couple can locate a potential surrogate mother. Historically, the most common (and successful) method of surrogacy was for the couple to approach a close friend or relative and ask if they would be willing to carry the baby to full term. Unfortunately, without careful use of legal rules and contracts, some serious issues can arise when it comes time to meet the Baby.
Surrogacy Today
Today, there are a number of different resources, clinics, and surrogate agencies where potential surrogates are virtual strangers -- and in some cases, that may be best. Either way, these women are willing to provide their services, go through in-depth screening methods, and abide by the rules of the contracts and agreements. The more prepared you are in the beginning, the lesser the chances of seeing your dream-come-true transform into a nightmare.
Know the Law
Surrogacy laws and case precedents vary from state to state, so it is critical to take the time out to meet with an attorney to consider potential complications and risks. It is essential that you create an airtight legal agreement to avoid the potential devastation of paying a lot of money, and going through a lot of trouble, only to have your selected surrogate opt out of the transaction and keep the baby. If the baby bears the genetic materials of both parents, there may be greater protection for the couple seeking the surrogate. However, if not, or if the surrogate’s own egg was used in the fertilization process, you can find yourself in more confusing territory. When this is the case, a legal professional and/or contract specialist can do wonders to avoid potential pitfalls in the process.
